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A message from Wendy Keidan

Dear All,

I am writing to you all in these unprecedented times just to reassure you that we will continue to deliver the same high-quality level of service that you have always received from St. David’s.  We are closely following Government advice that can be found on these sites:-

Gov.uk Coronavirus Advice

Public Health Wales

NHS questions and answers about coronavirus.

Our main priority is to ensure you keep well so we are doing all we can to reduce the possibility of transmission of infection.  Thus, from Monday the 23rd March, the majority of our social Workers will be home based and wherever possible any pre-arranged visits will be conducted by Skype, WhatsApp or telephone.  If you would like a home visit, please have a chat with your social worker about how best we can achieve this. Prior to any arranged visit ,we would be grateful if you could let us know if anyone in the family has needed to self-isolate recently or a member of your family or wider family is in one of the at risk vulnerable categories such as being elderly, has a pre-existing health condition or is pregnant and we can discuss options with you.

If you have not got a pre-arranged visit organised, but would like some help and support, please do not hesitate to contact us on either 029 2066 7007 or e-mail info@stdavidscs.org and a member of the team will contact you as soon as possible.

For the present time we will not be organising any workshops or training, but will be looking at other options to ensure that you keep up-to-date with latest developments or research that will help and support you.  It is also unlikely that our Annual Summer Celebration will be held this year, but we will ensure next year’s event is extra special.

I hope that you are all keeping safe and well and please do not hesitate to contact us at any time for support.

With kind regards.

Wendy

 

Wendy Keidan

Chief Executive 

#PROUD TO ADOPT

This week is LGBT+ Adoption and Fostering Week! We welcome all LGBT+ adopters and we would love to support you in growing your family.

Thinking about adoption? Contact us for an information pack or just a chat with one of our social workers!

 

When our daughter’s social worker visited our home to see that we could accommodate the little person about to enter into our lives, she mentioned the “honeymoon period” that adopters often have. We said we hope that our “honeymoon period” would be as short as possible, because it’s a honeymoon for adopters but a nightmare for the adoptee.

Well, how about no honeymoon period at all?

The day we brought our daughter home wasn’t anything like we imagined it would be. We knew it was going to be a bit sad for her, but we thought there would also be happiness, excitement. Instead, it was one of the toughest days in the lives of all three of us.

The first few weeks were incredibly challenging and lonely. We had moments of happiness that felt like they were surrounded by grief and sadness. We remembered that we were told this might happen in our training, and our social worker Jane was always just a phone call away – day or night, 24/7/365.

That made it easier, and the tools that St David’s provided us with were producing results, which gave us a great sense of empowerment. We felt like “we got this”- and that whatever would be thrown at us, we can handle it.

Adopting an older child has its difficulties. It sometimes feels like we’re “sharing” her with her birth family and foster carer. She’s also burdened with so much guilt, that often if we have happy moments she’ll feel like she has to compensate by expressing her loyalty and love to the people she’s no longer with.

On the other hand, in many ways it makes things easier. She can talk and has the self awareness to help us understand what’s bothering her. She also has clear memories of her family and a connection to her past. That, we feel, takes a huge burden off her in terms of her identity and also off of us as we don’t need to “carry” her past for her – she knows what she’s been through.

There are amazing highs and devastating lows in this journey. Two weeks after our daughter moved in with us, one of our two cats of 9 years died unexpectedly. It was crushing, but we had to deal with it while we had a child who was herself grieving and finally letting out the pain that she had kept inside for a long time.

For a long time it didn’t really feel like parenting. It felt like supporting a child who was going through stuff that adults would struggle with, a child who feels like at any moment her whole world can turn on its head and once again she’ll have to start over.

Of course, when that period finally started to end after the first couple of months, other challenges came up. There’s always something, and every day has its trials and tests. But it’s different now: it feels more like parenting, she feels more and more like a child who’s confident in her place in the world. A child with a feeling of self-worth and who isn’t afraid of new experiences.

Seeing that difference in her, and hearing her social worker and other professionals say what a different girl she is to the one who moved in with us, that makes it all worth it. With St David’s amazing support, we’re doing OK.

 

We’ll be at Pride Cymru in Cardiff on 24th and 25th August! Come by the NAS stand to see us — we’ll be giving out pride postcards and chatting to people about adoption. Come and speak to our social workers or hear what some of our adopters have to say!

For some time now, St. David’s Children Society have hosted Adoption Drop In Sessions, every Tuesday and Thursday from 12-2 at our Cardiff office, for people who are thinking about adoption and have questions they would like to ask.

We appreciate that for many people who initially contact us, adoption may have been something that they have been thinking about for a long time and that first contact may seem really daunting and to speak to a stranger over the phone about it may seem like a really odd thing to do!

Our Drop In sessions are a really informal way for people to find out more, ask questions of an experienced member of staff and to find out about the next steps.

If after the session, you feel that adoption is not right for you, that is absolutely fine, but if you feel like the time is right for you, we can advise you of the next steps.

Our goal is that you find out all the information that you need at whatever stage you are at, and you feel comfortable in talking to us.

No appointment is needed, just come along between 12 and 2 on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and we will put the kettle on and hopefully answer any questions you have!

If you would like any further information, please call us on 02920 667 007

 

Are you interested in adoption but don’t know where to start?  If you live in Wales or Herefordshire, please see all the details below:

St. David’s Children Society, Wales’ longest serving adoption agency, are holding an Information Evening on Tuesday 21st May 2019 at 4pm.  We will talk about:

– Who are St. David’s Children Society and what do we do?

– Who can adopt?

– What is the process and how long will it take?

– What children are available for adoption?

There will be lots of opportunities for you to ask questions, whether that is part of a group, or privately.

Please contact us on 02920 667 007 or email info@stdavidscs.org to book your space as places are limited.

Our office and the Information Evening will be held at:

28 Park Place, Cardiff, CF10 3BA

 

 

St. David’s Children Society are delighted to announce that yesterday we were awarded the Innovation Award at the Institute for Collaborative Working for our new project, Adopting Together.

In collaboration with Barnardo’s, Adoption UK, Cardiff University, the 22 Local Authorities in Wales and supported by National Adoption Service, Adopting Together has emerged from a common and clearly defined purpose: securing permanence for children who have waited for a significant length of time for a family. These children in Wales are traditionally but not exclusively children over 4, BME children, part of a sibling group or have additional complex needs or uncertainty regarding their development.

Congratulations to everyone involved for all their hard work over the last 12 months to get this project off the ground and successfully placing children with their forever families.

https://www.instituteforcollaborativeworking.com/

Innovation Award Winner – Institute for Collaborative Working

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