A Message from Wendy, our CEO -

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First and foremost, I hope that you and all your family and friends remain well. It has been a period of change and challenge thus far for everyone and despite some reprieve in the summer, we are now entering a potentially tough time over the winter with a reintroduction of national restrictions and local lockdowns for some regions in Wales. I therefore wanted to write to you all at whatever stage you are in your adoption journey, from making an enquiry to adopt to adopting many years ago, to offer my assurances that despite local and national  lockdowns  there will be no change to how we deliver our services to you. We have been home based for many months now and over that time we invested heavily in infrastructure to deliver online pre approval training, virtual adoption panels that have functioned very well  and we have provided a range of support including therapeutic support online. Feedback from families who have accessed this report say that it has worked incredibly well.

We have also introduced a mixture of face to face and virtual meetings when needed. For example, when undertaking some assessment work or support visits. The face to face meetings are conducted following stringent risk assessments to ensure you are all safe.

If you are thinking about adoption we would be delighted to hear from you, so please contact us on www.adoptionwales.org or phone 02920 667007.

I am very aware that for those of you who have adopted, you have experienced some incredibly challenging months being Mum, Dad, teacher, nurse, counsellor to name but a few roles all probably in the space of an hour at best. Your resilience, tenacity and creativity has shone through, but please don’t hesitate to pick up the phone at any time to talk anything through – that is what we are here for.

For those of you at the very start of your adoption journey as newly approved adopters, we are working hard to ensure that we find the right match for you to become parents. This is life changing and life affirming so getting this right for the child and you is critical. In order that you can hear about some of the children who are waiting for a family, you will be invited to a virtual profile event during National Adoption Week, from October 12th to 18th.

We are really disappointed that we are unable to have our annual Christmas party this year – the absolute highlight of my year – but we are hoping that we can provide some Christmas story telling magic online so look out for that plus our annual newsletter with a catch up of news across the Society.

As ever, I send my very best wishes and thanks to each and every one of you.


There is no denying it – it is hard!

I would love to be able to say that 13 weeks in, we have established a new routine, a new normal, and every day is full of new opportunity and delight, but this is no fairytale. The reality is we take each day as it comes: some are truly inspiring and give you a glimmer of hope, that maybe you do actually have your sh*t together, while others we plough through with our heads down.

Routine was once a formidable safety blanket, but introducing and more importantly maintaining a new structure in a two up, two down terrace house, which is no longer just their home, but now an office, a gym, a playground, a school and canteen, is just damn-near impossible. Their emotions are shot, my children have already grieved heavily in the past. The loss of their birth family, their foster family, and now this.

I understand to many, they may feel I am over exaggerating, but the truth is our five year olds have experienced more trauma than many of us will face in a lifetime, and to have their routine, family and friends suddenly stripped from them alongside the emotional anguish attached is an experience they only know too well.

After the honeymoon period of being at home with Dad and Dadi ended, about two weeks in, the realisation that this wasn’t going away hit. Their behaviours started to regress, and past feelings, along with their dragon-like tantrums, started to raise their ugly head again. Chaos well and truly descended!

So, we took each day as it came, reverting back to old tactics which we were first introduced to from their foster family. Their days became structured around their meal times, breakfast, lunch and dinner, because as long as they knew they wouldn’t go hungry, which they once did, they felt secure. We then dotted in some home-schooling, garden play, PE with Joe Wicks (who I hope to never have in my living room again) around this, keeping it very much lead by them.

We vastly reduced the number of video calls. We discovered as time went on that they could unsettle the boys. The presence of a family or friend, on a screen, in our house, with only verbal interaction combined with their already mixed feelings of uncertainty, and lack of understanding only enticed their already hyper vigilant and sometimes manic behaviour. Instead, we hold off video calls until they ask, which is usually when they are excited to tell them something or want to show something off.

I myself have also struggled. Just before lockdown I was made redundant from a job I loved. Not to be too disheartened, I had a number of very positive interviews under my belt and opportunities started to dot across the horizon, yet this all came to a halt with the uncertainty brought on by lockdown. I love the boys but, personally, being a stay at home dad was never something I desired. My career is part of my identity, something I could succeed in that was my own, but now in lockdown, and with the light at the end of the tunnel constantly on dim, it is difficult to motivate yourself when you don’t actually feel you are working towards anything.

That said, it hasn’t all been doom and gloom and now as we enter our 14th week, those dragon-like tantrums are securely reigned, they are returning to school in some shape-or-form in a couple of weeks and we can meet other families in the park.

The chorus of ‘Dadi, he hit me!’ or ‘DADIIIII, he took my toy’ will resound in my ears long after lockdown but if you had the choice, being locked down with your brother who also happens to be your best friend doesn’t seem like a bad option. The pair of them are completely different, yin & yang, but lockdown has meant that they have not only found comfort in each other, but learned to appreciate each other’s differences and enjoys each other’s company through the sharing of the others interests.

I no longer feel guilty about their screen-time and the worry that they may not develop at the same rate as their peers has well and truly been erased. Comparison is the devil and as long as they feel happy, safe and content and sleep well at night we are happy.

So, for now, whether it is a long walk or simply vegging out in front of the TV, we’ll take it, and when routine finally presents itself again, we’ll relish it but more importantly be ready!!

Dear all,

I just wanted to write to you all and hope that first and foremost you, your family and loved ones are keeping safe and well.

We continue to live in unprecedented times and I know that all of you are  having different experiences of home life as a family whether you are at the early stages of your adoption journey, waiting for children to be placed with you or have adopted some years ago.

For some of you having this time together has been welcomed with children really enjoying their one to one time with Mum /Dad. For others it has been incredibly tough with children really missing the structure and routine of school. Whilst we continue to work differently through various platforms such as zoom whatever your experiences we are here to help and support you so please do not think that you need to do all of this on your own. Our phone number is 02920 667007 or email info@stdavidscs.org and we will put you in touch with a duty social worker who is available Monday to Friday 9.00am- 5.00pm ( 4.30 pm on Fridays).

There are some parts of the adoption process that are inevitably taking longer such as the safe movement of children from foster care to adoption. We are all working very hard right across the sector and across professional disciplines to assist and support processes wherever possible. However, I appreciate that any delays to you becoming parents will be an anxious time for you. Please do not hesitate to discuss these anxieties with us and we will do all we can to assist and support you.

We have set up fortnightly mid-week coffee morning support groups, continued with our quarterly weekend support groups with guest speakers, there is a closed Facebook group for peer support and lots of ideas of how to keep children entertained during lockdown on social media.

Facebook – @StDavidsChildrenSociety

Twitter –  @AdoptionWales

Instagram – @st.davids.children.society

AFA Cymru are facilitating workshops and training via webinars so ask your social worker about them.

There is also additional support available through AUK who have introduced new helpline hours  Mondays, Tuesdays and Wednesdays.

7- 9 pm and during the day Mon – Fri – 10.00am – 2.30pm. You can contact them on 0300 666 0006 (option 5)

They have also got useful information on the following links:


You will also find helpful advice on the National Adoption Service website:


For those of you thinking about adoption we are very keen to hear from you on 02920 667007 or info@stdavidscs.org .  St. David’s remains very much open for business, and is eagerly poised to respond positively to the next stage in Welsh Governments recovery plan when it is known.

I wish you and yours all the very best.



Wendy Keidan

Chief Executive Officer/ Prif Weithredwr 


This week is LGBT+ Adoption and Fostering Week! We welcome all LGBT+ adopters and we would love to support you in growing your family.

Thinking about adoption? Contact us for an information pack or just a chat with one of our social workers!


When our daughter’s social worker visited our home to see that we could accommodate the little person about to enter into our lives, she mentioned the “honeymoon period” that adopters often have. We said we hope that our “honeymoon period” would be as short as possible, because it’s a honeymoon for adopters but a nightmare for the adoptee.

Well, how about no honeymoon period at all?

The day we brought our daughter home wasn’t anything like we imagined it would be. We knew it was going to be a bit sad for her, but we thought there would also be happiness, excitement. Instead, it was one of the toughest days in the lives of all three of us.

The first few weeks were incredibly challenging and lonely. We had moments of happiness that felt like they were surrounded by grief and sadness. We remembered that we were told this might happen in our training, and our social worker Jane was always just a phone call away – day or night, 24/7/365.

That made it easier, and the tools that St David’s provided us with were producing results, which gave us a great sense of empowerment. We felt like “we got this”- and that whatever would be thrown at us, we can handle it.

Adopting an older child has its difficulties. It sometimes feels like we’re “sharing” her with her birth family and foster carer. She’s also burdened with so much guilt, that often if we have happy moments she’ll feel like she has to compensate by expressing her loyalty and love to the people she’s no longer with.

On the other hand, in many ways it makes things easier. She can talk and has the self awareness to help us understand what’s bothering her. She also has clear memories of her family and a connection to her past. That, we feel, takes a huge burden off her in terms of her identity and also off of us as we don’t need to “carry” her past for her – she knows what she’s been through.

There are amazing highs and devastating lows in this journey. Two weeks after our daughter moved in with us, one of our two cats of 9 years died unexpectedly. It was crushing, but we had to deal with it while we had a child who was herself grieving and finally letting out the pain that she had kept inside for a long time.

For a long time it didn’t really feel like parenting. It felt like supporting a child who was going through stuff that adults would struggle with, a child who feels like at any moment her whole world can turn on its head and once again she’ll have to start over.

Of course, when that period finally started to end after the first couple of months, other challenges came up. There’s always something, and every day has its trials and tests. But it’s different now: it feels more like parenting, she feels more and more like a child who’s confident in her place in the world. A child with a feeling of self-worth and who isn’t afraid of new experiences.

Seeing that difference in her, and hearing her social worker and other professionals say what a different girl she is to the one who moved in with us, that makes it all worth it. With St David’s amazing support, we’re doing OK.


We’ll be at Pride Cymru in Cardiff on 24th and 25th August! Come by the NAS stand to see us — we’ll be giving out pride postcards and chatting to people about adoption. Come and speak to our social workers or hear what some of our adopters have to say!

For some time now, St. David’s Children Society have hosted Adoption Drop In Sessions, every Tuesday and Thursday from 12-2 at our Cardiff office, for people who are thinking about adoption and have questions they would like to ask.

We appreciate that for many people who initially contact us, adoption may have been something that they have been thinking about for a long time and that first contact may seem really daunting and to speak to a stranger over the phone about it may seem like a really odd thing to do!

Our Drop In sessions are a really informal way for people to find out more, ask questions of an experienced member of staff and to find out about the next steps.

If after the session, you feel that adoption is not right for you, that is absolutely fine, but if you feel like the time is right for you, we can advise you of the next steps.

Our goal is that you find out all the information that you need at whatever stage you are at, and you feel comfortable in talking to us.

No appointment is needed, just come along between 12 and 2 on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and we will put the kettle on and hopefully answer any questions you have!

If you would like any further information, please call us on 02920 667 007


Are you interested in adoption but don’t know where to start?  If you live in Wales or Herefordshire, please see all the details below:

St. David’s Children Society, Wales’ longest serving adoption agency, are holding an Information Evening on Tuesday 21st May 2019 at 4pm.  We will talk about:

– Who are St. David’s Children Society and what do we do?

– Who can adopt?

– What is the process and how long will it take?

– What children are available for adoption?

There will be lots of opportunities for you to ask questions, whether that is part of a group, or privately.

Please contact us on 02920 667 007 or email info@stdavidscs.org to book your space as places are limited.

Our office and the Information Evening will be held at:

28 Park Place, Cardiff, CF10 3BA



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